Thread:YAREYARE42/@comment-26435553-20160721080231/@comment-27901418-20160728061714

Hi good work doing your research.

you are correct that に　is use often with the passive voice. but in actuality に indicates direction.

in japanese は　always marks the subject,not に, its just that the subject is often omitted from the sentence as its assumed from context you know who the subject is. (generally the subject is only included if the subject is new person/item from the previous sentence) and the object is often marked with a が or を

example.

私はその人にペンをあげる

here the subject is 私、the object is ペン　and the verb is give. and the person yo uare giving is is marked by に. so i wil give this pen, to that person.

its the same with passive voice

私はその人にペンをもらう　so i recieved a pen to that person (or i received a pen from that person, to make it sound less silly) in japanese they only use にto indicate direction and the verb tells us which direction. 私は鳥を食べた　（I ate a bird）　私は鳥に食べられた　（I was eaten to a bird or i was eaten by a bird)

so the verb 甘える mean to be spoiled

so 子供に甘える mean to be spoiled by you children as its (私は）子供に甘える

私は子供に甘い(です・である) does infact mean i am lenient on my children, but that is because 甘いis an adjective and not a verb. in this cause the verb is is ''to be'

thus （私は）TTKに甘える means i am spoilt by TTk, as with out the を to indicate the active voice its automatically a passive verb.

To say you spoil the TTK you must say （私は）TTKを甘える

I hope this explains things for you. as confusing and conveluded as my explaination is